This blog is written by the clinicians at Jonah Green and Associates, a mental health practice based in Kensington, MD that provides quality services for children, teens, families, and adults. It is intended as a resource for families who are seeking to expand their knowledge about mental health and mental health services, and also as a resource for families who are seeking quality mental health services, especially in the mid-Atlantic region.
“Why is this so hard?” They were thoughtful, committed, and trying. “We love each other,” one partner said. “But it just feels… tense.” “I feel like I’m always getting it wrong,” the other partner added. “With the kids, with you—everything.” These are familiar moments in stepfamily therapy. There is love, effort, and goodwill, mixed with
“I hope I’m at least half the dad that he didn’t have to be.” —Brad Paisley, He Didn’t Have to Be Stepfamilies are often born in transition and pain, arriving after divorce, separation, or loss. Blending a new family means juggling a swirl of tasks: establishing routines, balancing loyalties, negotiating boundaries, and developing traditions. As
The prospect of beginning a stepfamily (or a “blended family”) can be exhilarating, especially because stepfamilies often form after losses such as divorce or death. Successful stepfamilies combine enthusiasm with a conscious, step-by-step process that considers the family’s complexity and each family member’s unique needs.