Different Modes of Mind
Our minds tend to operate in different modes depending on the situation. Dialectical Behavior Therapy describes these modes as “rational mind,” “emotional mind,” and “wise mind.” When we lead from the rational mind, we focus on facts and logic. Asked to solve a math problem, for example, and we rely on rational thinking to arrive at an answer. The emotional mind, on the other hand, is ruled by feelings and urges. When we are emotional, it can become harder to access the facts of a situation. For some of us, our “emotional mind” takes over when we catastrophize and declare that things will never get better or the worst possible outcome will definitely happen. At other times, we may rely only on logic and facts, detaching from our emotions in ways that make it harder to understand and communicate what we are truly feeling or needing. Therapy helps us understand that we can use these modes and balance them through specific techniques, which increases our ability to respond adaptively in various situations.
The Wise Mind
In between these two polarities is the “wise mind,” the balance between the rational mind and the emotional mind. It allows us to draw on both facts and feelings while honoring our emotional experiences. When we listen to both logic and emotion, we create space to relate to our thoughts, feelings, and experiences with compassion and curiosity rather than judgment and avoidance. This balance can empower us to approach challenges with greater confidence and understanding.
Therapy and the Wise Mind
Dialectical behavior therapy can encourage us to connect with the wise mind. By slowing down and examining our automatic reactions, giving voice to feelings that may have been beneath the surface or thoughts that may have gone unspoken, we can begin to observe our internal system with more distance and clarity. From this place of greater awareness, we can start to recognize the wisdom within our emotions and understand what they may be trying to communicate or protect. While this process can sometimes be challenging or uncomfortable, persistence and patience help us develop the skills needed to listen more effectively to both our emotional and rational minds, ultimately fostering greater confidence, clarity, and compassion in handling life’s challenges.
-Posted by Lydia Sander
Lydia Sander is an MSW Intern with Jonah Green and Associates, LLC, which offers therapy services for children, teens, families, and adults in North Bethesda, Maryland, serving clients in Montgomery County, DC, and the surrounding areas.
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